Family Crisis

 

Hello, everyone, it’s that time of the week for me to share what I have read and learned this week from my reading. _­­­­This week I read from Lauer and Lauer about family crisis. Now you can probably think of a crisis or even a family crisis in your life. That is what I will be sharing with you guys. Now there are many factors as to why a family is dealing with stress. It could be financial which is a very likely stress factor. We are going to look at the many types of situations that can lead to a family crisis. Also, how some people might cope when these situations arise. Also, if the coping is effective or ineffective. An example is given from the story in the reading from Lauer and Lauer. They said that there were wildfires that raged in a family’s area. When the family returned to their neighborhood. They saw burned houses and thoughts that you would have during this. Like how terrible this is or why has this happened to us etc. etc. Then they saw an owner of a burnt house putting up a sign saying, “Termite Free at Last”. That gave them a chuckle at what that owner said. Now he still has a burnt home, but he reacted differently than many people would react given his circumstance. In the story they said that this was probably in a way the guy saying that situation wasn’t going to beat them. In any case I think we can all agree that when people think about a past crisis, they can say that it was “Stressful” whatever the event was. And that’s what makes a crisis sticks out in our minds. Something that really sticks out to me is that crisis seems to strike when we have other things we are going through. An example of this is like the extreme sickness of a family member. Maybe it’s a terminal illness. Not only that but it happens to the parent who is working to provide for the family. That would be stressful to deal with. For Young newly weds the common ones are financial strains and work etc. Not only those things but when you bring children then there’s a increase financial strain on the things that they will need for. Now some people might turn to the wrong source to destress. An example is abuse of alcohol and/or any other drug. This can negatively affect the family in a lot of ways. Not only abuse in substances but also abusing children and/or spouse. 1/3 of children that grow up become abusers as well, but two thirds do not. Very clearly here people can react differently to their circumstance. Sometimes a crisis can be something that helps families grow stronger. It’s kind of like exercising. When you put your muscles under stress that can make them grow stronger. But of course, this is different for each individual and family. Now each person and/or family can “cope” in a different way. We are going to look at some of those. There are the ineffective coping patterns. In the reading they say that its not that it doesn’t work. Its just not going to be very effective in the long run. Here is a list of some ineffective coping patterns. Denial, Avoidance, and scapegoating. The first two are pretty self-explanatory but scapegoating is like taking out your frustrations to someone in the family. An example of this is blaming the mom because the miscarriage was here fault. The reasons were ridiculous in my opinion, but you can look in the link for more information on these things. Now one of the best copings is done when you believe in yourself to be able to deal with difficult times. You should also take responsibility. That you go forward and try to push forward in a healthy way. Now there is a lot more in the reading than I can possibly go over. Just know that you’re not the only one or that you family is the only one that goes through tough times. Some advice would be to believe in yourself and those that you care about. Well thanks for reading see y’all next time.

Lauer & Lauer, Chapter 13 - Family Crisis.pdf